Who am I?
I am Nikki
What made you want to become a counsellor?
I had a life changing accident in 2004, I experienced a roller coaster of emotions. I know what depression, anxiety, loss felt like, self-conscious, not good enough one minute, to angry, snappy, bursting into tears at the slightest thing, frustrated that I couldn't walk, and started to experience nightmares, flashbacks, feeling isolated and not knowing who I could talk to. People I thought were my friends soon disappeared and distanced themselves, you heard the saying "you soon find out who your friends are when you need someone".
I had no idea what to do or who to turn too, it was frightening, and lonely, and being made to feel it was all in my head.
I got passed from doctor to doctor, consultant to consultant and still no idea, what was wrong, or what to do, I continued with the ongoing treatments. Tablets, if they didn't work, swapped to another such as Ketamine, Naproxen, Amitriptyline, Gabapentin, Pregabalin, Nortriptyline and the list goes on.
I decided I had to look at my own fears, hurt and pain and turn it around to give me my own wealth of understanding. I went on a pain management course for a month at Bath pain clinic, to help me learn I will always be in pain so I had to change from the pain controlling me to I'm in control of my pain.
I decided to start a counselling course, working my way up the levels, working hard to get where I am today. I have had to learn to accept what happened and take control of my life. I decided I wanted to be someone who people go to, when they are going through a tough time, could turn to, so that's just what I did.
Have I had counselling at all?
I had different kinds of counselling, CBT, solution focus and others, some good counsellors and some not so good, nothing really helped, I tried again and working with the counsellor for a number of sessions but it wasn't enough, I couldn't afford a lot of counselling, so I was left high and dry. Another reason I decided that I wanted to find out what I needed to learn to work with trauma and the process I went through to be able to do the job as I learnt what would have helped me.
I wanted to help others to help themselves, having both experienced and gaining the knowledge.
How long did it take you to get where I am now?
I chose a path to become a counsellor, 10 years ago, also finding out I am dyslexic but I didn't let that stop me. I followed it through, step by step gaining different qualifications, and learning who I am along the way.
I qualified as a personal centred counsellor and crisis and trauma counsellor, building up areas to be able to work with trauma and PTSD (see my qualification page) I am at present finishing off a CBT diploma, art therapy course and working towards my accreditation.
I am committed to carry out the continued personal development that we have to, to keep up with up to date information for evidence-based therapy. I also have an up to date enhanced DBS.
Do I enjoy what I do?
Yes, I'm passionate about my work, meeting lots of unique individuals that got lost along the way, it’s a great pleasure in meeting and helping then work through, anything from anxiety, relationship problems bullying in the work place, child sex abuse and lots of other traumatic areas in their lives as well as find themselves and take back the control of their lives and getting lost along the way, helping them learn that they do deserve a better life if they find they got into violent relationships, or a trauma and working with them for as long as they need me or until they can work it through to the end.
* 2013 - counselling - I have been working at a mental health charity for the last 6 years.
I have a wealth of experience and a special interest working with trauma and PTSD and I am passionate about what I do.
* 2017 - I set up my own private practice ' Know Your Own Mind.
* 2017 - I started helping out at Road Victim Trust, working with people who have lost loves ones, through a vehicle accident.
* 2019 - Embrace - children’s charity helping children and young people, have been through domestic violence, abuse or trauma.
What others say about "me"!
"Easy to talk to", "shows empathy, accepted who I am", "understanding, friendly, gentle and a kind motherly nature and gets you to open up to her”, “I felt listened to"
"Helped me to understand what I've gone through"
"Having someone to help me and understand, didn't try telling me what to do. “Just being heard" "makes you feel at ease"
Higham Ferrers, Kettering, Wellingborough & Northampton.
I have limited availability for evening appointments in Higham Ferrers.
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